Monday: Sophie puts her hand up after I have explained how to write a PEE paragraph for the second time. “Sir, I can’t do it,” she tells me. Sophie can do it. She did it last week and for homework. I sit with her until she overcomes her total lack of confidence and writes the paragraph. Tes reports.
Wednesday: Miss Hayes comes into the staffroom frazzled. In her last lesson there were three pupils who were chatting among themselves while she was speaking: tired, stressed and on the edge, she sent them out without any warning.
In theory, these two incidents are not connected.
As a society, we like to compartmentalise these sorts of issues. But actually, they’re part of the same problem: low self-esteem in the classroom affects both pupils and teachers. While Sophie’s poor self-esteem prevented her from learning, Miss Hayes’ mood made her less likely to resolve her conflicts with pupils in a positive way.
My 12th year of teaching was awful. When I was in class, I was cranky, lacked patience and found it progressively harder to de-escalate conflicts with students. I lost the ability to spend the necessary extra time with the Sophies and Annas of my classes and started cutting corners with marking and lesson planning. I wasn’t coping, and ultimately I burnt out and left teaching for a while.
Pupils too experience this. It’s what happens when the system pits us against each other when we should be supporting each other.
To make things worse, when I was not coping, I felt ashamed that this was the case and I developed strategies to “hide” my distress. Ultimately teachers have a choice: they can leave. Pupils don’t have this luxury. Instead they act out and misbehave.
Teachers and pupils mirror each other all the time. As a teacher, I often got the sense that the pupils could almost “smell” when I had not slept well or was not at my best. I used to joke that office workers could have “off-days” but not teachers. When this did happen, my lessons and relationships with my pupils would suffer, which would increase my sense of shame and lower my self-esteem – and decrease the quality of their learning time with me. It was a vicious circle.
I realised that teachers all experienced similar issues and that by focusing on what we could control – ourselves, our emotional states and a positive sense of self – we could begin to foster really great relationships with our pupils, experiment in class and grow ever more competent as teachers.
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