It takes a village to raise a child. Parents and teachers should be a team – in total harmony in their shared goal of helping children develop in both learning and life. You should always back the teacher in front of your child. That used to be common sense. Unfortunately, it no longer is. There needs to be a united front where the teacher and parent are seen to be working together, but when I made this simple point on social media this week, I received a blast of online criticism. Katharine Birbalsingh, headmistress and founder of Michaela Community School writes in The Telegraph.
The vast majority of teachers are good people doing a hard job, working long hours for not much pay. One of their main motivations is to give your child an excellent chance at life. Setting a detention takes up a teacher’s time. They have to supervise the child after school instead of getting on with their work. They need to log it on the system or ring home.
Here’s the reality: if you as a parent complain about it, the likelihood is that the teacher will drop their standards for your child and stop giving out detentions. Why? Because they don’t want to get abuse from parents. It is easier to just let your child submit mediocre homework or chat at the back of the class. When faced by this combative impasse, detentions stop and the parent stops complaining.
When you go marching in to “give that teacher a piece of your mind”, all you are doing is letting off steam and seemingly taking your child’s side. Yes, teachers make mistakes. But do you really want to win the battle and lose the war? Do not underestimate the power of the relationship between teacher and pupil and how much you as a parent can influence it. Sometimes waiting, biting your tongue and thinking is the best strategy.
Read the full article The key to educational success? Side with the teacher, not your child
Have you found yourself increasing defending the disciplinary actions you’ve taken? Do you agree that parents over defending their children is becoming increasingly common? Please tell us your thoughts in comments or via Twitter ~ Tamsin
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