An independent girls’ school is holding a “blow your own trumpet” week to help over-pressured, high-achieving pupils who find it difficult to accept that they have been successful. This is from the BBC…
“Some teenagers will continue to push themselves, never recognising when they’ve done enough,” said Heather Hanbury, head of Wimbledon High School.
Last year the school ran a “failure week” to help girls cope with setbacks.
Now the London day school says it wants to raise girls’ sense of “self-worth”.
Ms Hanbury said that after last year’s innovative “failure week” she had been contacted by fellow head teachers who said pupils could also have problems in coping with their achievements, with some girls unable “to accept success when it finally came”.
Without being able to acknowledge when “things have gone right”, she said, some girls “might never be happy”.
In response, the school, part of the Girls’ Day School Trust group, is going to run its own Blow Your Own Trumpet Week, where pupils will be able to talk about their experiences of success and failure.
The head teacher said she wanted her pupils to be “confident in the things they’re good at and to know they’re not good at everything, recognising their own strengths and weaknesses”.
“There is a tendency particularly among girls to focus on what they can’t do,” said Ms Hanbury.
“And this can go into later life, with women not getting to the positions they might do in their professions, because they are less willing to blow their own trumpet.
“Men are expected to promote themselves. If boys show off, it’s seen as, ‘That’s the way that boys behave,'” she said.
The head teacher said girls needed to understand that taking credit for achievements was not the same thing as showing off or being boastful.