Experts warn pushy perfectionists can leave their children depressed and anxious

The Daily Mail is reporting that parents who are too ‘pushy’ can cause their children mental illness such an anxiety and depression.

In the five-year study on primary school children in Singapore, researchers found that children with intrusive parents had a higher tendency to be overly critical of themselves and this tendency increased over the years.

‘When parents become intrusive in their children’s lives, it may signal to the children that what they do is never good enough,’ said Assistant Professor Ryan Hong, who led the study at the National University of Singapore (NUS).

As a result, the child may become afraid of making the slightest mistake and will blame himself or herself for not being ‘perfect’. 

Over time, such behaviour, known as maladaptive perfectionism, may be detrimental to the child’s well-being as it increases the risk of the child developing symptoms of depression, anxiety and even suicide in very serious cases,

‘Our findings indicate that in a society that emphasises academic excellence, which is the situation in Singapore, parents may set unrealistically high expectations on their children. 

‘Also, because they are supposed to be ‘perfect’, they can become disinclined to admit failures and inadequacies and seek help when needed, further exacerbating their risk for emotional problems,’ explained Asst Prof Hong.

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